Having skills in the sack is something to be proud of. But how do you know if you’re a great lay?
It’s rare that someone is going to come out and tell you that you’re a hot mess and need to work on those moves, and women are notorious fakers. So we’re here to clear the air with some telltale signs that you really did do quite well. If you can relate to any of the following, keep doing what you’re doing, champ.
If this list seems foreign to you, stop focusing so much on what you think she cares about in the bedroom and start doing your homework. Here is a good place to start.
1. When you kiss, she gets turned on quickly.
Kissing can get a woman in the mood instantly. Don’t jab your tongue down her throat; hold her neck and kiss her like you mean it. You’ll be able to tell that it’s good by how in sync you two are.
2. You don’t skimp on foreplay.
Foreplay is so important. If you skip right to sticking it in, she’ll probably just be in pain. Take your time and show her that you’re interested in satisfying her needs before yours.
3. You’re confident AF.
Confidence is $exy. Need we say more?
4. Your ex openly admits that the s*x was amazing.
Talk about an ego boost. When your former flame says that the s*x was good and doesn’t even expect to sleep with you again, she’s telling the truth.
5. Your Friends With Benefit still hits you up.
Usually a FWB situation lasts until someone is in another committed relationship. But if she knows you have a girlfriend and still hits you up? 1. She sucks. 2. You’re killing it.
6. Women have asked you where you learned that move.
Something you thought was standard might just blow her mind. Although you probably saw it in P0*n once, maybe refrain from telling her that. It’s OK to take full credit here.
7. You communicate with your partner.
The key to good s*x is listening. Whether you need to speed up, slow down or change positions, you need to feel out your partner’s body language or talk it out.
8. She’s vocal.
Of course there’s always a chance she’s faking it—sorry, boys. But if she’s really into it, you’ll know. If you’re going down on her and her legs are shaking or she’s grabbing the sheets and yelling your name then, yeah, you’re doing all the right things.
9. She wants to do it again.
When you’ve really blown her mind, she won’t be able to get enough. For women, legitimately orgasmic s*x can be a rarity. When they find it, they crave it.
10. She’s super flirty afterward.
If she’s into you, she’ll talk to you throughout the day and may even make it known that she wants to do it again soon. Perhaps with pictures. Score!
11. She’s handsy all day.
While she may send you $exts or flirty messages throughout the day, it’s her body language that lets you know how much she really wants it. Actions speak louder than words, right? Take notice of how much she touches you when you’re together. She may be subtly asking for more.
12. You feel satisfied.
It’s important that both partners feel equally awesome after s*x. And since it takes two to tango, s*x is only great if you’re both on the same page. If you felt awkward and uncomfortable, chances are that she did, too. But if you thought it was hot and passionate, she very well may have, as well.
13. You don’t take yourself too seriously.
s*x is funny! You’re bound to encounter some awkward moments, but if you don’t let it ruin the mood, it’ll help her loosen up. Pun intended